LCSNW Home Page Lutheran Community Services Northwest
Home Page
President's Welcome
Services
Offices
News Page
Reference Library
Advocacy Page
Ways to Help
Links Page
Site Map
Make a Contribution
Breaking the Cycle
LCS’ Domestic Violence Family Services Program addresses the effect of domestic violence on children
DVFS Photo
By the time she was six, “Melanie” had already witnessed more violence than most people – and it wasn’t on television. It was in her own living room. Her father abused her mother. They had left four times, but each time her mother went back, convinced that she could not make it on her own. Finally, they found the safety of a shelter and the support of LCS’ Domestic Violence Family Services.

Each year, up to 10 million American children witness domestic violence. It leaves a lasting impact on them. The danger of witnessing domestic violence becomes apparent when you look at the statistics. Sixty percent of teenagers in juvenile detention grew up with domestic violence. One-third of all teenage boys and half of all teenage girls who abuse drugs have been involved in physical or sexual abuse.

Children are not bystanders when they grow up in a violent home. They learn from what they see. Their behavior is often a reflection of the anger, confusion and fear they feel:
Acting out or withdrawing. Isolation from friends and family members
Refusing to go to school Depression
Bed-wetting and nightmares Feelings of guilt
Overly aggressive or passive behavior Fear of abandonment
Out-of-control behavior Distrust
Inability to follow directions or set their own limits    

As they grow up, they may follow the patterns they observed in childhood and are at-risk to become abusers themselves as adults. LCS’ Domestic Violence Family Services works with children to change that.

Serving the Tacoma/Pierce County, Washington, area, Domestic Violence Family Services works with children and families to reduce the social and psychological damage from domestic violence. It provides supportive counseling and educational services in domestic violence shelters, schools, and congregations, as well as for individual families. Key community partners in this effort are the Pierce County Domestic Violence Helpline and the YWCA of Tacoma-Pierce County.

Counseling makes a difference!
Through specialized individual and group counseling, children learn that there are positive ways to handle their emotions. In other words, they learn that violence is not a necessary part of their lives.

Children learn:
bullet to understand domestic violence and know that they are not responsible for it.
bullet to properly identify and express feelings, especially anger and grief.
bullet to improve personal communication and problem-solving skills.
Parents learn:
bullet to use new parenting skills.
bullet to develop social support.
bullet to provide a safety plan.
Families learn:
bullet to enjoy a safe and healthy life.

For more information about Domestic Violence Family Services, call 253/272-8433 or click here.


Home | Welcome | Services | Offices | News | Events |Library | Advocacy | Ways to Help | Employment | Links | Site Map

E-mail

Copyright 2001-8, Lutheran Community Services Northwest
All Rights Reserved

Etherjazz Web Design